What If I’m Not Here Tomorrow?A Difficult but Necessary Conversation

We all believe we’ll have time.
Time to talk, to organize, to write things down, to make everything clear.
We think that when life calms down, when the kids are older, when work slows down, when the holidays pass… then we will.

But tomorrow isn’t guaranteed.
And while that may sound harsh, it’s true. We’ve seen it.
We all know stories of people who are no longer here—people who left behind confusion, not because they wanted to, but because they never thought it could happen to them.

Talking about the “what if” isn’t a lack of faith. It’s love.
It’s telling the people you care about, “I’m thinking of you, even for the day I’m no longer here.”
It’s about leaving decisions made, paths outlined, resources ready.
It’s about not leaving behind problems.

I’ve seen families who, in the midst of grief, also had to face paperwork, debts, arguments, and uncertainty.
And I’ve seen the opposite too—people who, even through their pain, found comfort in knowing everything had been thoughtfully arranged.
That changes everything.

We often avoid these conversations because they make us feel vulnerable.
Because we believe that if we talk about it, we attract it. But that’s not true.
What really attracts problems is denial, not preparation.

Talking about what could happen doesn’t make us cold.
It makes us wise. And responsible.
Because living with purpose also means understanding that what matters most isn’t how long you live, but how you live… and what you leave behind when you’re gone.

You don’t need to figure it all out today.
But you can take one step. Have the conversation. Make a list.
Ask yourself: If something happened to me, would my loved ones be protected? Would they know what to do? Am I leaving peace… or uncertainty?

Don’t postpone what can bring peace.
And if you’ve already taken that step, revisit it. Update it. Improve it.
Because loving also means preparing the path for when you can no longer walk it yourself.